Our House is a Very, Very, Very Fine House
This is part 3 of 3 lessons introducing parenting. Please Study them in order to get the most out of the series. Click on the title below to go directly to the associated lesson.
Our primary duty as parents is to teach our children about the Lord and His word and following that, we are to teach our children how to apply His word to their lives. This will take some effort and planning, but even with the planning, there will be surprises that crop up from time to time. To reduce the number of surprises, we will get into as many of the known issues that parents and kids experience and consider methods of parental guidance and correction that may help you become ready for the task. When those surprises do occur, it is our prayer that you will be ready to act and know whose help to seek and what resources are available to you.
We have talked over the last two lessons about who your children actually belong to, and what the Lord expects from you as parents.
You learned that your marching orders are to…
- Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
You learned that the way to accomplish this is by your diligent effort to love the Lord and by teaching (among other things) this fundamental principle to your children.
- And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. (Deuteronomy 6:5-7)
Q: Do you remember the Five Ws formula for building a story?
A: Who, What, When, Where, Why
(You may also remember that a good conclusion also included the How)
So let’s see if our introduction to parenting God’s way is complete or if there are any gaps.
- Who – Our Children (Proverbs 22:6)
- What – Teach the Way (Proverbs 22:6)
- When – Adam Clark says: When they reach the opening of the path
- Where – Not covered
- Why – The Lord commands it (Deuteronomy 6:6)
- How – Through prayer, By being strong and courageous (Deuteronomy 31:6), and by teaching what you learn (preparation and modeling).
Looking back at Deuteronomy 6:7, one’s house seems to be the place where the training is to take place.
If looking exclusively at the biblical references we are using to establish our parenting orders, it seems one’s house is to be the where that all of this training is to take place.
This, and the fact that the parenting is to be done by parents, not by outside parties, is supported by the following passage:
- Genesis 18:19 – The House is the Place of Training for Abraham’s Children
- For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
- This passage speaks to us with a similar message to what Proverbs 22:6 has to say; stating that parents (namely Abraham) will train their children (and all others in their household) to honor the way of the Lord.
- Ephesians 6:1-3
obey your parents in the Lord, for
this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment
with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in
- Indicates that parents are the authority
- Notice that the promise given to those who learn through the authority of their parents as given by the Lord are promised that things will go well for them.
- This is an indication that those children who remain committed to the way they should go, as taught by their parents, will enjoy the fruits of their obedience in their life on earth.
So if one’s house is to be the place of instruction and teaching, there must be some qualities that make it such a place where children might learn the way to go. A house must be a place where it is safe for a child to sit, rest, and wake next to parents who are teaching and modeling what they need in order to develop into right-thinking adults.
To get a concept of the purpose of a house, lets look at the Hebrew word for house as used in the passages we have studied so fa:
Strongs Hebrew and Greek Dictionary
a house (in the greatest variation of applications, especially family, etc.): – court, daughter, door, + dungeon, family, + forth of, X great as would contain, hangings. home[born], [winter]house (-hold), inside(-ward), palace, place, + prison, + steward, + tablet, temple, web, + within (-out).
This word bayith is a broad use word; it relies on context to fully develop its use. You certainly remember many Bible studies from the old and new testaments that referred to the houses of David and Abraham, as well as the House of God.
In the context of the House of God, we are generally talking about a place, a structure having a specific purpose; and, therefore, the word Bayith is used to indicate a dwelling. For example: Jesus went into the Bayith of the tax collector to eat supper with him.
In the case of the House of David; Jesus was not expected to be born in the actual house of David, but was to be a descendant of David’s family. From this use of Bayith, we can see that it can, through context, be used to indicate the word family as we use it today.
With that settled, let us take a look at our destination Bible passage:
- …except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. (Psalms 127:1)
Focusing in again on the word house, but in this case, one which is to be built for a family.
Consider that there are three inferences that we can draw on for this study:
- The structure your family lives in is dependent on God keeping it in order as a place made to stand strong through anything that might intend to damage it such as wind, fire, burglary, mold, neglect, or confiscation.
- The structure of your family’s morality and purpose is dependent on God and will live on in such a way that every generation following yours will not allow it to become damaged by misrepresentation, accusations, fracture, or abandonment of purpose.
- The structure your today family lives according to a strict dependence on God as it relies on His blessings, strength, wisdom, and His word to build a solid and intentional structure of love, faith, and hope that includes in its members the characteristics of charity, long-suffering, kindness, patience, along with a knowledge of perfection.
God wants us to rely on Him so our house (the place, who we are as a family, and our current generations) to be houses that glorify Him. A house built by God’s hands will always be a very, very, very fine house.
By Mark Painter MCM/PC and Jody Painter CMM